Blackmail, at its core, is a form of obtaining power over someone and in some cases holding onto it. If you are not careful though, this fickle form of power can easily come undone. Unlike other forms of power, this one causes more stress and the subject is way more aware of its effects on not only their life but the lives of those they care about.
While you may think this would keep the subject in line, the stress of trying to keep up appearances with those, not in the know and also keep the blackmailer happy… can be crushing over time. This is why most who are blackmailed eventually through their hands in the air and say JUST DO IT!
Those who are inexperienced in the fetish naturally believe that this move is a test or defiance to the blackmailer but this assumption could not be further from the truth.
Daring the blackmailer to out them is rarely the desired outcome but rather a plea for release from the unbearable song and dance they have been having to play out.
In cases like this, the newbie Domme will just out the sub or well… most fear jail time, so it then revealed that they will do nothing. With no real consequence, the pet feels that surge of adrenaline and wants to start over again. Maybe not that day but soon after.
With this new found belief that this is just a game, they then seek out another Domme and sometimes… the poor soul will find ME!
All Dommes are wise to learn about fetish, inside and out, before taking on the task so delicate as blackmail. It is not just a legal landmine but the psychology behind it needs to be deeply investigated, but rarely is.
Blackmail subjects will test boundaries and if you out them too soon, well that is why many who get extortion charges pressed on them are wearing orange at this point.
If you also wait too late to pounce, the subject will no longer care if they are outed. They may even just out themselves preemptively, thus taking that sting out for you.
More importantly though, blackmail is not just about outing your slave though. Blackmail is more of a tool of power, rather than a goal. It is used to help mold and shape a slave whereas other motivators have failed. It is used to push boundaries and help your pet move past what they have been truly wanting to do but too scared to actually make the move forward to do!
Now does that mean I do not hesitate to out pets? Well I didn’t record myself calling wives for nothing! There are also other ways to show you are serious, especially in this era of social media. No I do not mean just posting to your twitter where no one can see. I know what your thinking, then WHERE?!? Well I do not reveal all my secrets up front 😉
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